[Note: If you want to see where I learned most of my tricks from, you can click here.]

A bold statement, I know. But it’s true: If you know how to flirt with a girl right they will then begin to seduce you. Consistently!

So here is how to flirt with a girl/women the right way:

1. Make conversation naturally

Awkwardness is the number one killer of a flirtatious conversation. And NO, pick-up lines are not natural. Sorry. “Hi” is sufficient for opening although there are other options. My favorite one is to start right into the conversation as if you’ve known her forever. It’s the least awkward you can get, they will buy into it most of the time and it’s the most comfortable for you as the talker.

2. Tease her

Continuing the theme “treat her as if you were friends all along” and as we know friends make light fun of each other. That is the essence of flirting. Of course you keep the humor light. Don’t heavily rip on her weight or something. I found the best way to lightly tease a girl is to make a comment on something you know she might be a little insecure about while smirking and then turning it around so that the whole thing only makes her sweet/cute. Sweet is a pretty safe spot between a compliment and not getting too sexual if you’re not yet fully comofrtable with it.

The trick is generally also to say something that could potentially be considered rude but with a tone that says “I like it, you’re so sweet”.

If you have siblings you shouldn’t have any problems with this anyway.

3. Amp it up – get sexual.

Okay until now you’re on your way to make a new friend. That’s where most guys are stuck, in the friend zone. The only way out is to make a leap into the unknown and drop some sexual remark. Remember we want to stay away from awkwardness. The easiest way I know of is dropping the word “sexy” describing her or something about her during the conversation and then go on as before.

Like maybe joking about someone walking by who was staring at her and you say “Don’t go to hard on him, I had to check out your sexy pants as well as I walked by. Where did you get them by the way?” Best said with that slight smirk we know from James Bond as he drops lines on women.

That is the point where the shift happens in her head. Now there is only one more important thing:

4. No neediness, keep patience.

Go on as before but switching more and more from fun teasing to getting to know her more. But never stop the teasing completely it is still the essence of flirting. I still tease my girlfriend daily with random sh*t and she still has that smile about it on her face she had the first time.

Also occasionally drop some sexual remarks if it seems fitting but don’t overdo it. If she now knows you find her attractive but are still classy and talking to her like a normal human being she will get more and more interested and start chasing you before long.

Now since flirting is a process that involves both equally you still need to amp up the sexuality as well further. The next thing would be to kiss her and that is much less difficult as most guys would think. Anyway since this article is only about flirting I’ll keep myself from drifting off. I don’t consider kissing techniques part of flirting. Master those four steps first and we’ll talk further

The Really Fun Part

If you want to read a complete guide on seducing a woman, from how to flirt with a girl right down to getting her home and into your bedroom, I really recommend the one I learned most of my tricks from. Go to my favorite guide’s website.

I know this can seem pretty much at first but it is really simple in action. I know I didn’t believe it at first when I used to still be a teenage virgin without ever having had the courage to flirt with a girl.

But Then …

I went on the internet to research flirting techniques and most of the stuff I found was total BS. It just made everything more complicated. After about a year of reading about flirting techniques and pick-up lines and so on I was still where I started and even had the feeling of knowing even less about how to attract a woman because so much different stuff was floating around in my head.

Fortunately it turned out to be really easy once I knew what to do. I found a really heart-centered guy that wrote a website and finally got me to see women as people again that aren’t so unlike myself (No link to him because the website isn’t there anymore and I can’t ask him anymore if I may talk about it).

I started to actually go out and talk to women although I still didn’t have a clue of what to say exactly. Then I found that guide by Tiffany Taylor and holy sh*t did it blow my mind. I know my friends have heard me say before that advice from a woman regarding how to flirt with a woman is always BS but I take everything back in Tiffany’s case.

After reading that thingy my success rate skyrocketed. Okay, in it there are a couple of parts that really just a woman could have wrote and I guess if a dude wrote it some parts would be a lot more readable (less focus on emotions and so on …) but I still love it like no other flirting guide I’ve ever read. Really, it has so many killer techniques I wouldn’t know where to start.

Click here to see it if you like.

I’m just noticing I did drift off now. Let’s close this step-by-step article on how to flirt with a girl (and if you are a girl yourself: how to flirt with a guy is pretty much the same). Have fun experimenting with it Girls+Guys!

So what is there to say about flirting and loving? Love of course here doesn’t mean the needy concept of “I need you andwant to stay with you forever” but rather it stands for a concept of a positive appreciation kind of attitude that really melts the chick’s hearts.

So when learning how to flirt with a girl you also need to learn to love the girl when you are talking to her. Women are the sh*t at picking up body language and underlying conversational energies and just as well as they can sniff any insecurities in a guy instantly they also sniff out positive energy right away.

Guess which one is better for you.

When you make a conscious effort while flirting to love the girl -
not as a mother loves her child,
not as a married couple love each other,
not as a religious person loves god,
but in the sense of deeply appreciating her beauty and character
she has no chance but to reciprocate if she has any heart at all.

And if not you’ve just done yourself a favor and saved yourself a lot of headaches.

One more thing since I get occasionally asked by people how to do this without the feelings developing into a crush:

Don’t worry about that happening just because you “flirt-love” her the way I described.With a little practice on different girls you can learn pretty easily to keep those feelings strictly apart. It’s simply different kinds of love. And how often have you heard of a mother wanting to marry her child, you see?